Conditioning
Do you ever wonder who you really are? So much of our parent’s identity is embroiled within us. We are taught how to think and what is expected of us and we just merrily go along or choose the direct opposite just to rebel. But what of us is really our own? And how can we trust what we believe to be our truth when we have been so influenced?
I see it now with my own children and their friends, to hear their discussions, which are a direct interpretation of the parents ranting and beliefs. It is amazing. I even hear my own children representing my beliefs or my husband’s ideas as their own opinions. They tend to like what we like, probably because that is all they know. Then they take on the likes of peers only to fit in. But they grow up claiming likes and dislikes which are only conditioned habits and familiar behaviors. How could we ever really form non influenced opinions?
Makes me wonder how much of a robot I really am. In my line of work, I regularly help people overcome and clear past negative conditioning. Nice to clear out the unhappy emotions that hold them back, but what about the positive conditioning, is it not still conditioning, and has it not helped form who they are? What if that is not who they are at all? What if all the encouragement and congratulations and hints of what they are good at sent them down a path that is pretty good, but it was not really their real path. Could this be why so many potentially happy people with nice jobs and families still seem only pleasantly happy but not clearly joyful and content with their lives?
Who are you really, apart from everything your parents and teachers and mentors suggested that you were? Have you hit your core truth? That feeling, beyond everything else, that says, yeah… this is exactly where I am supposed to be and I am doing exactly what I was destined to do! I can feel it in my soul!
Did you see the movie The Matrix? Ever wonder if you are living a life programmed by someone else? Perhaps we are just brains in a vat playing out a silly drama in our minds. And if that’s the case, could we change the play and the roles simply by thinking it so? If you realized the full extent of your conditioning would you seek to change it all or just not make waves and continue along?
posted by Tina Heathers @ 10:11 PM
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2 Comments:
Interesting post! :)
To me it all seems pretty clear at this point. To come back to the silence within in every moment and live from that space. No need to analyze the past or figure out the future. By coming back to this experience all of this "negative"(if thats what we would like to call it) conditioning will naturally fall away. Whatever no longer serves falls away. This allows us to live innocently in the present moment.
Now, obviously if we don't have an experience of the silence within or if we haven't even realized that we aren't our thoughts things can seem a little more complicated in this matter. Its really just the identification with thought that causes all of the pain in peoples lives. If people learn to watch their thoughts and observe them from that space within they the thoughts really lose all of their power.
So many potentially happy people with nice jobs and families aren't clearly joyful because they are missing that inner experience of peace & joy & infinte creativity & unconditional love within themselves. The millions of things outside of ourselves from families to a new house to a good job still won't bring us true happiness if we don't experience what is within everyone. What is our birthright. Finding happiness on the outside is the wrong answer! :)
My feeling at this point is that the growth of consciousness does not have to be difficult... its really the simplest thing in the entire world... Anyone that thinks otherwise is just grabbing onto a thought... :) Find a suitable vehicle that brings you inward to the deeper levels of the mind.. & repeat! :)
No reason to analyze the past... No reason to figure out the reason that this happened or why that happened or why we act a certain way.
Simple, simple, simple! :)
...but then if we come into this life having chosen it, then all the more strength from the fact that your parents were who they were meant to be. The problem, may arise when things go askew ( or is that known too? ). So what's the problem - you are who you knew you were going to be. ...Fate, there ain't no gettin' away from it... My mind goes on with all these notions and intentions and feelings and yet it seems separate from it all and continues as it always has with no sense of having changed or the desire to change anything until the path is altered ... externally? So who am I meant to be but the person I am ... or is it to become aware of who I reallly am and not try or pretend I am someone else ... ? Meanwhile, back at the ranch, life goes on, with or without you, aware or unaware, conscious or unconscious, awake or asleep, dead or alive, and so on and so forth.
"Have you hit your core truth?" I certainly dont' feel I have but sometimes think I am locked into it, unawares.
"Did you see the movie The Matrix?" Yes, and the idea of having the power to sort life as you like it from the chaos or random data of existence is wonderful ...and overwhelming.
I think you are a person who is the most in touch with who they are or were meant to be, that I have met. Keep up the good blog!
Rana
P.S. Have you ever looked at yourself and thought, that is my father or that is my mother, not just in what I say or do but in how you actually say it or do it! Now, that is truly startling!!
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